Finding the best massage therapist for you (NOT written by Chat GPT but by a real live practicing therapist) Massage is an interesting business (vocation? profession). It suffers from sometimes not knowing what it wants to be. Some massage therapists liken themselves to doctors or other medical professionals. Others to holistic healers and shamans. The chains seem to compete on loyalty and price, placing more emphasis on membership than the bodywork. Still others think that if they continue to add "modalities" to their list of skills, it will be impressive. You have likely come across a massage therapist who has 50 certifications in this and that. Massage marketing is hopelessly outdated. Its a profession that wants to be taken seriously yet we still market with these "steam roller over a body" or "maniacal looking tortured cat cartoons" with lines like "you knead a massage". Or top 10 reasons why you need a massage, and all the reasons are so hopelessly generic it could be from chat GPT. For consumers, its no better. The average client searches for a massage the way they might search for toilet. paper. Which is to say they treat it as a commodity and search based on cheapest price. No wait- that's actually not true, most people put more care into the brand of toilet paper they buy and would not choose the cheapest option, so they put more thought into how they search for toilet paper. I pay for Google ads and the top query for me is "Massage Deals". Which is to say that is term most people use to find me, and I pay for those words, even though I do not offer any massage deals or discounts on my site. The second highest search is "massage places close to me". Whenever I hear from a new client, and they ask for something I don't offer (like deep tissue, its not really a thing, but more on that in another post) I always ask, "how did you find me" and they say I just Googles massage places close by and you came up first. This is when my heart sinks. I know they didn't read my web page. I know they know nothing about my work. I know they want something generic, fast & cheap, and likely painful....because everyone knows no pain no gain right. If it doesn't the client is not getting their moneys worth !! Ha. So for these clients I start with questions, what are you looking for? Did you read about my offerings? Do you get regular massage ? where? why not go there today ? etc etc. From their I determine whether or not I can help them and i I will see them or refer them. The reality is that most clients are not really aware of how massage can help them because they have not connected with the right therapist. Especially the ones who love massage, they keep chasing Groupon deals and keep ending up with mediocre experiences, unhappy that their $35 massage was not life changing. So you want a great massage and how do you go about finding one? There are some general rules of thumb and there are some specific things Lets start with the generalizations. Don't use Groupon to chase the cheapest price, if you use it at all, use it to sample therapists work at a reasonable price Massage Therapists participate in Groupon and things like it for 3 basic reasons. 1. They are not very good and thus are not very busy with few repeat clients 2. They are newly starting out and do not know how to get the word out 3. They are good but don;'t know how to get the word out or are new to the area. Therapists from the first category are the most common. Not very good, not likely to get re-booked. Just getting people in and getting them out. They may be under the mistaken belief that they are amazing and may tell you in all the ways they are without ever asking you a single question. Therapists in the second category are also somewhat common and here you have the chance to connect with a good new therapist. If you stumble onto a new or new to the area therapist that you like. RE-BOOK. Massage gets better with each treatment by re-visiting the same therapist because they can get to know you. Also new therapists are generally very eager. They want to please. Hopefully they will ask questions. We will come back to that, but a therapist who asks more then they want to tell you is generally a good sign. Therapists from this last category are the most rare, but they are out there. Excellent therapists that simply have no idea how to market because massage therapists are not business people. If you find one of these, STOP LOOKING. Groupon did it;s job for you. Don't go back to Groupon, go back to the therapist. Massage Therapists that are the best tend to work on their own/for themselves in small practices and have been around/established. The best body workers are likely to be found toiling away in small nondescript offices that have been there. These spaces are less fancy but any therapist that is surviving, thriving, on their own - paying rent, marketing, etc is likely to be a good body worker. Now the second key is whether they are the right therapist for you. Maybe they specialize in something you are not looking for. We will come back to that. The fanciest Spas/Facilities or highest price treatments are not likely going to deliver the best hands on work but may deliver the nicest experience. It is a mistake to assume that just because you are paying $320 (2024 money) for a 1 hour Massage with an exotic name that it will be the best. What you can be sure of is that it is likely to be a wonderful overall experience which is to say papering, robe, waterfall, mimosas, relaxation areas........this is actually something I love when I travel but i don't expect to get the best bodywork, but I appreciate the experience. And sometimes a lovely experience is the goal. Now onto the specifics. If you want to get the best out of your massage and find the best therapist for you here are some things to consider: There is no single best therapist, just the best one FOR YOU. Massage, while sharing some common underlying themes is a highly individualized and unique experience. No two massages from two therapists are likely to be identical, hence it is up to you to find one who listens to you needs, understands them and does their best to accommodate them. What are your Goals? It all starts with you. Identify why you are looking for a massage. What are your goals. Be realistic. Massage therapists are not miracle workers but some have T shirts that say that. Search & Research Instead of Googling "best massage near me" or "cheapest massage" try Googling a term for what you are looking for. Something like "Massage for lower back pain" or "Massage for managing stress" When you get some hits read the website. Is it generic or specific? Does it look professional? Read the "about me' section. Can you relate to this person in some way? Do you think they will take the time to understand your needs. Are they passionate about a certain type of work? Look for a Therapist who specializes and mentions repeatedly and specifically that they do the type of work that you are seeking. Just like if you were going out to eat and wanted a spectacular piece of fresh fish, you would not likely choose a place that offered fish, steak, pasta, tapas, pizza, chicken - you would likely pick a restaurant know only for it's fish. Massage is a big tent word. Think of the word "Massage" like the word "Food" and all the things that can 'fall under it. Ask Questions Don't blindly book and see how it goes. Ask questions. See if there is a way to reach out beforehand. If the therapist is unable or unwilling to field a few questions before booking, move on. Expect to be asked questions I generally don't accept first time clients without speaking to them first. If they somehow finagle an online booking, I call or email them, ask questions, determine if they are a good fit and/or if I can help them. If I feel its a mismatch I decline the booking and refund the client. Maybe refer them. Once booked I have a written take that is comprehensive, When they come for their first visit, I sit them down and again, verbally go over why they are here and how I might best help them. I ask about preferences and get specific permissions. Nothing is ambiguous. I cannot tell you how many clients tell me I am the only massage therapist that takes this time. If the therapist doesn't ask anything beyond "hows the pressure" or "what kind of pressure do you like" or "hows the music" that is not a good sign. Communication is Key Not only per-communication, but post communication. What did you like or appreciate best? what could be done better for the next visit.? Massage therapists are not mind readers, you have to tell them and if you do and you come back each successive visit should get better and better. Don't be afraid to drive. Maybe the best therapist for you is 20 miles away and not next door. Have an open mind. I see clients from a variety of states and some internationally. I am not the most booked out therapist but many of my clients, the ones who can afford it, are willing to travel for my work. For the ones with really unlimited resources, I travel to them. Expect to pay a fair price A great massage from a good/great therapist to me is like finding gold, or better - Its priceless. Just as you shouldn't search based on the least expensive, you shouldn't assume quality based on the most expensive. A really great massage is likely to fall somewhere right in the middle. When you find what you are looking for STOP LOOKING This one is so obvious it almost doesn't need to be stated but yet it does. Whenever I see a new client I always ask them how often they get bodywork? Do they have a favorite person? Why are they here and not going to that person? Sometimes it doesn't occur to them, Sometimes they love a certain type of work but now want to try a different specific kind of work. Sometimes their favorite is booked. Massage connoisseurs and bodywork devotees know all this, they know how to find the work that is right for them - but the vast majority of massage clients don't really understand massage. They don't understand the benefits. They don't understand Deep Tissue is not the ultimate measure of good - its not even science, its a marketing idea!!! (read my thoughts on deep tissue in other blog posts) They feel guilty. They feel its an indulgence. They may get a yearly Gift Certificate - if this is you WELCOME TO MY PAGE. You are the perfect potential convert to a lifetime of improved well being and self care, Massage is selfless not selfish I would like you to start looking at massage as a commitment to self care, not an indulgence. Let myself or the therapist that you most connect with help open up your eyes to the tangible and intangible benefits of regular bodywork. There s a lot more I could say on the subject but hopefully you get the idea. Try my suggestions above and let me know how it goes in the comments 'below. With Aloha not written by Chat GPT, can you tell?
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Because so many people ask about it, I have decided to write a bit about the Chakras and how they relate to (my) sound healing. First, let me say that it is important to know that I have not studied this system. And while many people ascribe certain musical notes (and colors) to the individual Chakras, this is not something that is a part of my belief system. However, if you as the client bring an understanding of Chakras to to your session, and a desire to unblock any of them to facilitate better energy flow, I am here to assist you. So with that said lets talk a little about the chakras. What are Chakras? Chakras are an ancient energy system that emerged in the writings of the Vedas, ancient Hindu philosophical texts that were written between 1500 and 500 B.C.E. The Vedas are a collection of poems, hymns, and spiritual writings that impart knowledge of the religion of Hinduism. You may have heard people talk about "unblocking" their chakras, which refers to the idea that when any chakra is "blocked" the attributes of that chakra cannot function properly. When all of our chakras are open, energy can run through them freely, and harmony exists between the physical body, mind, and spirit. There is a certain simple elegance to this idea, and sometimes it is expresses as "being in balance" or "mind/body balance". I myself use these terms often. In India and other parts of the East, beliefs about chakras were included in many systems of healing and spirituality, including Ayurveda, yoga, Hinduism, Buddhism, and others. These systems developed around the idea of a life energy that flows through our bodies and the universe. The use of the chakras is thought to help connect with this life energy in different ways. For example, yoga uses breath and movement to bring energy into the body, and move it through the chakras. Ayurveda uses herbal medicine, meditation, and other practices to open the chakras and balance energy. Chakras became popular in the West beginning in the 1960s-1970s as part of “alternative” spiritual movements. Western traditions that sometimes use chakras include psychology and complementary medicine, as well as spiritual practices. In Hawaiian culture, this somewhat can be seen in the term "ha meaning breath (which is part of the makeup of the word "alo'ha' or breath of life. Oceanic cultures have concepts like "ha" and 'mana' (life force) which resemble in ways the chakras in that there was a common ancient understanding that some mysterious energy runs through us. There is something for sure. We are not just an assemblage of plumbing and scaffolding. Anyway back to the chakras..... What are the 7 main chakras? The chakra system refers to the energy centers it is believed by some that we have in our bodies. There are seven major chakras, each in a specific location along your spine. Let’s look at each one more closely. Root chakra The root chakra, or Muladhara, is located at the base of your spine. It provides you with a base or foundation for life, and it helps you feel grounded and able to withstand challenges. Your root chakra is responsible for your sense of security and stability. Sacral chakra The sacral chakra, or Svadhisthana, is located just below your belly button. This chakra is responsible for your sexual and creative energy. It’s also linked to how you relate to your emotions as well as the emotions of others. Solar plexus chakra The solar plexus chakra, or Manipura, is located in your stomach area. It’s responsible for confidence and self-esteem, as well as helping you feel in control of your life. Heart chakra The heart chakra, or Anahata, is located near your heart, in the center of your chest. It comes as no surprise that the heart chakra is all about our ability to love and show compassion. Throat chakra The throat chakra, or Vishuddha, is located in your throat. This chakra has to do with our ability to communicate verbally. Third eye chakra The third eye chakra, or Ajna, is located between your eyes. You can thank this chakra for a strong gut instinct. That’s because the third eye is responsible for intuition. It’s also linked to imagination. Crown chakra The crown chakra, or Sahasrara, is located at the top of your head. Your Sahasrara represents your spiritual connection to yourself, others, and the universe. It also plays a role in your life’s purpose. Chakra healing in Western science Western science hasn’t studied chakra healing very much and doesn’t have a clear understanding of if or how it works. Most Western research about chakras has looked for links between the chakras and the parts of your endocrine and nervous systems that are near them on your body. For example, scientists might study the pineal gland, a part of your endocrine system, which is in the same part of your body as your third eye chakra (ajna). Some research has tried to measure changes in electrical energy where your chakras are located on your body. Other studies have asked people how they feel after they do treatments to balance or open their chakras. While the scientific connection might not be there fully, most people say that doing practices to balance their chakras helps them deal with stress and anxiety and improves their mental and emotional health. Chakras and Sound Healing There is a belief that each of the chakras has a color and a musical tone associated with it. Because the musical notes come from the west, and are much more modern, this belief likely also developed in the alternative movement of the 60's and 70's thus I cannot promulgate the idea that any specfic note is associated with any specific chakra. However through the processes of entrainment, and the proximity of the bowls and/or forks to the chakra locations, many people report a generalized feeling of well being and unblocking and that's great! If it happens for you that would make me very happy. Sound healing involves going in with no expectation, an open heart and an open mind and let your body and mind do what it is going to do. I invite you to try a sound healing session, bring your struggles and your blockages and lets see what we can accomplish for you. At the conclusion I hope that the experience leaves you feeling relaxed and with a renewed sense of energy and calm. Mahalo Time for another update. If you would like to see the complete article please go here What to Expect during Lomi Lomi Massage For the past 3 or so years this original blog post, linked above, held the top position in Google. It made sense because the article was written based on years of training and immersion into Lomi, Hawaiian wisdom & culture and what sets this treatment apart. Recently, due to changes in the algorithm I am assuming, other articles are popping up. from AI, generic websites, and from sites that have no understanding beyond lazy copying and pasting of things here and there. This regurgitation of misinformation is disappointing. If you are truly interested in what a Lomi Lomi Massage is like, spend some time reading this site.
I teach this work nationally and internationally on a selective basis. I travel all over the country and in fact the world at the request of clients who bring me to them, and I am happy to help you learn about this remarkable healing experience. Further Reading There is very little information of value, which is still in print, but if you would like to do further reading, I can recommend: Na Mo’olelo Lomi Lomi Makana Risser Chai has written a wonderful reference manual for topics within Lomi Lomi. She lives in Oahu and was also a student of Auntie Margaret Machado. The book is a compilation of interviews and writings from Hawaiian elders collected by the Bishop Museum archives. You will find topics related to traditional healing practices like Lomi Lomi Hawaiian bodywork and La’au Lapa’au, Hawaiian plant medicine, Ho’oponopono and teachings about our Hawaiian spiritual values. The best book I know on the topic. Others if you can find them are here: Good luck in your reserach and I hope to see you.
Mahalo Edward My thoughts began to coalesce around this topic this morning in the shower. As my practice has evolved and I am in a better position to observe the common thread that weaves through it - I have come to describe it as stress management (and mind/body balance). But I think that's a term more familiar to and more narrow to the boomer generation.
Without divulging any confidences of my clients, one thing I have noticed from intake form is the prevalence of medications for anxiety and or depression. Nearly everyone that comes to me is on some form of medication for anxiety and or depression. Granted my practice has never focused on mechanical things; body part repairs, bad backs, etc. so for others it may be different. People get massage for a variety of different reasons. As I peruse internet forums and online conversations to get a better understanding of how other generations view this world (so that I myself may make sense of an increasingly unfamiliar and unhappy place we now inhabit) I see just how widespread generalized feelings of anxiety exist in the population. Without elaborating on the details of the world in 2024; wars housing, economic uncertainly, political polarization, social isolation...etc....etc.... etc. Suffice to say that its easy to see how and why people are in a constant state of worry or panic. This also helps explain the near universal appeal of "nostalgia". People long for a simpler time, whether the experienced it or just imagine it. Our brains are not built for all this worry. Our brains developed and are wired specifically to pay attention to "danger" signals and react. Think being eaten by a sabre tooth tiger, surviving an ambush from a villian. The brain is wired to let non threatening inputs just pass through. However we no longer live as cavemen. The physical threats have mostly vanished but have been replaced by virtual threats, Things we read about, things we disagree with, things we worry over - ALL THINGS BEYOND OUR CONTROL. Worrying about things we have no control over is anxiety. Worrying about things in our past that we cant let go of is depression. I'm not medical and I may have this slightly wrong so please feel free to help me learn, in the comments if you have an informed take. One other fascinating aspect of the brain is that it creates for you this beautiful, textural 3d universe of sights, sounds, colors, feelings, tastes, smells. It literally "creates" the world around you, for you. Yet the brain itself exists in silence and darkness. It never feels the sun, or smells the flower or tastes the nectar - it creates these things for you, from a constant input of basically electrical impulses, that it interprets and weaves this tapestry of the universe for you. The downside is that think about what we choose to fill our brain with and how - Facebook feeds, Instagram scrolls, people looking happier than us, people disagreeing with us, people complaining, on and on and on....so its paints that for you!!!! Yikes So what can you do about it? I ponder and struggle with this myself. Start by turning down and tuning out the noise. Get tactile, live in the moment......stick your fingers in some dough, play some music, ride a bike, feel the sun warm your skin....real experiences, not to post about just experience. So how does Massage fit into this? Massage is immediate, its in the moment. Its tactile. It feels good. It allows your brain to sort of turn off for a bit. One of the analogies I use to describe massage is this. If you think of your 5 senses, sight gets all the attention. We take in the world primarily through our eyes. Sound is second, we hear, we listen, we communicate. The other senses are tamped down and stay in the shadows. Touch, being the first sense to develop and the most essential to early childhood development is the most neglected. Its the Cinderella of senses. Its wayyyyy in the back. So like a shy child in the chorus, massage helps touch come forward, out of the shadows and step up to the microphone. and be heard. The brain can be refocused on the wonderful sensations of touch and over time with a commitment to self care you can reward your brain with this joy. Massage calms the nervous system (not vigorous massage - see my many posts on the wide misunderstanding around "deep tissue" and the general overuse and un-necessity of this treatment). Massage restores a sense of balance, It releases feel good chemicals that are helpful to your body. It can make you relaxed. It can make you happy. It can make you more calm. It can temporarily help you forget your worries. There is no downside. If you want a better you, consider making massage a key component to your commitment to self care. Its not a once a year indulgence - Its essential. My practice focuses on mind body balance, stress management and now I will add anti -anxiety to the list of descriptors. I look forward to seeing you soon. With aloha, Edward . Updated from an earlier post dated June 2015, originally posted HERE “Breathing in, I calm my body. Breathing out, I smile. Dwelling in the present moment, I know this is a wonderful moment.” - Thich Nhat Hahn I start every bodywork session with by breathing, in sync with my client. I find that the simple act of conscious breathing being aware of "in breaths" and "out breaths" slows my mind, gets me prepared, and for the client on the table, simple directed breathing sets immediately the process of allowing oneself to let go of stress and begin to enter a state of relaxation. Truthfully, though I actually start every session with a speech! Not really a speech so much as a welcoming greeting, wherein I say "Welcome. Inside this space, is like a sanctuary. The phone gets turned off, and on the other side of that door - lay your obligations; the bills, the job, the kids, the illness, the whatever that calls to you, obligates you or otherwise demands your attention or creates your worries. Inside, here in this space is just the now. Bodywork with me starts with and is a form of meditation. Much is made of the capabilities of alternative therapies, but much of the evidence to support massage's meditation’s effectiveness in promoting mental or physical health isn’t quite up to snuff. Why? Many studies don’t include a good control treatment. But when researchers from Johns Hopkins University in Baltimore, MD sifted through nearly 19,000 studies, they found 47 trials that addressed those issues and met their criteria for well-designed studies. Their findings, published in JAMA Internal Medicine, suggest that mindfulness meditation can help ease psychological stresses like anxiety, depression, and pain. Dr. Elizabeth Hoge, a psychiatrist at the Center for Anxiety and Traumatic Stress Disorders at Massachusetts General Hospital and an assistant professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, says that mindfulness meditation makes perfect sense for treating anxiety. “People with anxiety have a problem dealing with distracting thoughts that have too much power,” she explains. “They can’t distinguish between a problem-solving thought and a nagging worry that has no benefit.” “If you have unproductive worries,” says Dr. Hoge, you can train yourself to experience those thoughts completely differently. “You might think ‘I’m late, I might lose my job if I don’t get there on time, and it will be a disaster!’ Mindfulness teaches you to recognize, ‘Oh, there’s that thought again. I’ve been here before. But it’s just that—a thought, and not a part of my core self,'” says Dr. Hoge. One of her recent studies (which was included in the JAMA Internal Medicine review) found that a mindfulness-based stress reduction program helped quell anxiety symptoms in people with generalized anxiety disorder, a condition marked by hard-to-control worries, poor sleep, and irritability. People in the control group—who also improved, but not as much as those in the meditation group—were taught general stress management techniques. All the participants received similar amounts of time, attention, and group interaction. Positive Emotions Lead to Better Health: New research suggests that meditation, massage or any other mood-enhancing activity can serve as a nutrient for the human body. In recent years have psychologists begun to appreciate the benefits of happiness and positive emotion — benefits that include everything from enhanced creativity to improved immune-system function. Dr. Barbara Fredrickson at the University of North Carolina, a leader in the field of positive psychology, posed the question, “What good are positive emotions?” and came up with the following possibilities. Happiness broadens your focus and expands your thinking Positive emotions — curiosity, love, joy, contentment, wonder, excitement — expand your focus of attention. When you’re angry, your focus narrows to the source of your frustration and the object of your wrath. Your mind is like a heat-seeking missile, bent on destruction. Contrast this with what happens when you get excited about something — your mind opens up and there’s a free flow of ideas and intellectual possibility. Curiosity abounds. This is precisely why passion is so essential to artistic endeavors. This is also why you need a high positivity ratio in the workplace if you want a high rate of productivity and a healthy bottom line. When Psychologist Jon Kabat-Zinn and others studied the brain activity that accompanies this type of meditation, they found that it was the left frontal lobe of the brain that was literally turned on — the part that scientists refer to as the “happy brain.” Positive and negative emotions can’t exist at the same moment in time. Embracing one negates the other. Studies on touch have shown that something as simple as receiving a light touch hand from a compassionate friend or the act of petting your favorite animal can lower your blood pressure — so you can imagine the positive impact of the sustained and focused touch of massage - and, touch requires no prescription, nor has any negative side-effects. The next time you find yourself feeling negative — upset, angry, sad, or worried — try taking an hour or so for massage and see what happens — it may provide just the escape you need from those negative emotions. Aloha Update 9/17/2024 Every now and again, I look back on old blog posts and find one that deserves to bubble to the top again. Since writing this I have discovered a new author and lecturer worth listening to - his name is Dr. Gabor Mate. He is an author and lecturer and physician by training. A short video he made about stress can be found here - but please take a moment to listen to some of his thoughts, and or read any of his books. |
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